Although in the moment this instance was amusing at minimum and funny to most; it also sparked a conversation amongst the staff. Is chivalry dead? Is it dying more and more with each generation? Or is he still around but lazy and only showing himself for limited time offers or brief introductions?
As the conversation grew I gave it much thought. According to Webster, chivalry is a system of values, honor and loyalty, that was to be follow by knights in the Middle Ages on a moral and values system. In a more practical sense it is an honorable and polite way of behaving, especially towards women.
Of course most females argue that chivalry isn't necessarily dead but it's not exactly alive and well either. Most experience chivalry for small spurts of time with male company; the occasional door opening or offering of a jacket or seat. However even then these acts are not done by strangers but rather by men you know or associate with. Even when it's a new relationship it appears the acts are motivated by self gain such as impressing your company on a date or in mixed company. When these acts are completed by a total stranger the skepticism is even higher.
On the other-side, argued by mostly males, is the claim that chivalry isn't dead but rather independent women do not give chivalry a chance. So often do women open their own doors and pride themselves on being self made or independent that their leaves no room for anyone or anything else.
So what's the struggle? Everything to this point seemed straightforward; however we must empower our youth! Introduce young men to chivalry- but not just through words but also with actions; leading by example. We must also find a balance between being independent and allowing men to be men. Of course this is harder said than done. When I'm out and about and men open my door or offer their seat I'm anticipating some weak pick up line as I assume there must have been an angle to their portrayed kindness. It is these doubts that must be eased- we as women must simply give guys a chance.
I challenge each of you to empower not just youth but also your peers with respect. Encourage males to be chivalrous; acknowledge their kindness and efforts, say thank you and don't fear there response. Teach females to be independent and furthermore to understand the difference between when to implement this quality and when not to; just like any other trait there is a time and place. Although this is just the tip of the iceberg... It's something to work with: The first step toward reviving chivalry.
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