3 Years Past

The number 3 is such an interesting number. It appears in various contexts ranging from nursery rhymes with the 3 little pigs or 3 blind mice to modem day teachings such as past, present, and future and slogans like live, laugh, love.  Oddly enough it's not a number used to measure time often- so why did I use it?!

In light of recent conversation with 2 good friends we reflected back on the past 3 years. As far as I can tell the number itself was pulled out the air but none the less it provided structure for the content of our talk.   Both friends stated the last 3 years has passed and they had minimal accomplishments. More specifically it was stated that nothing has changed. And even more directly that nothing had changed in their love life, career, or living situation- yet again another "big three".

I sat in awe, dumbstruck by such a bold statement. To which I replied these anchoring categories were simply a poor measure. Life is much too complex to quantify by three arenas. Before I could catch myself, the words came pouring from my mouth, much like waterfall I vocalized limitless experiences from the past 3 years for myself and the others that were present. Some of which related to the aforementioned big three some of which was unable to be categorized as it was just that awesome! From traveling to Europe and the Mid-West to applying for different jobs in different states to being open to new relations and volunteering with all your heart...and this is just the abbreviated- less detailed list for sure.

It was in that moment that I noted how easy it is to compartmentalize our lives and the lives of others with focusing on only the big picture; and keeping the "finish line" in view. And although this keeps thoughts brief and keeps lists short it losses sight of all the smaller (but just as important) efforts and life lessons gained. No artistic masterpiece was just developed and categorized as greatness. Instead it was marveled and analyzed; from the colors and materials used to the technique implemented! These smaller characteristics is what makes a Picasso a Picasso as opposed to a "Not-so". So why is it that we choose not to include our "brush-strokes"  which details failed attempts, detours, and obstacles to our method to life's madness as we recount of lives.

 So where is the struggle in that?! Plain and simple: give yourself credit where credit is due. Be analytical of the pros and cons, count your positives and your negatives- this includes failed attempts as all efforts matter and help shape the next decision. So I challenge you, such that the next time you reflect you use wide brush strokes to evaluate forward movement instead of a broad overview of how you feel the end goal is no-where in sight. If your results are similar to mine- your art will be a masterpiece: Marvel at your mistakes. Be bold and embrace your blemishes. Smile at your strides towards excellence.  Then tuck away your creation  for another 3 years or whatever time period you decide and do it all again.