3 Years Past

The number 3 is such an interesting number. It appears in various contexts ranging from nursery rhymes with the 3 little pigs or 3 blind mice to modem day teachings such as past, present, and future and slogans like live, laugh, love.  Oddly enough it's not a number used to measure time often- so why did I use it?!

In light of recent conversation with 2 good friends we reflected back on the past 3 years. As far as I can tell the number itself was pulled out the air but none the less it provided structure for the content of our talk.   Both friends stated the last 3 years has passed and they had minimal accomplishments. More specifically it was stated that nothing has changed. And even more directly that nothing had changed in their love life, career, or living situation- yet again another "big three".

I sat in awe, dumbstruck by such a bold statement. To which I replied these anchoring categories were simply a poor measure. Life is much too complex to quantify by three arenas. Before I could catch myself, the words came pouring from my mouth, much like waterfall I vocalized limitless experiences from the past 3 years for myself and the others that were present. Some of which related to the aforementioned big three some of which was unable to be categorized as it was just that awesome! From traveling to Europe and the Mid-West to applying for different jobs in different states to being open to new relations and volunteering with all your heart...and this is just the abbreviated- less detailed list for sure.

It was in that moment that I noted how easy it is to compartmentalize our lives and the lives of others with focusing on only the big picture; and keeping the "finish line" in view. And although this keeps thoughts brief and keeps lists short it losses sight of all the smaller (but just as important) efforts and life lessons gained. No artistic masterpiece was just developed and categorized as greatness. Instead it was marveled and analyzed; from the colors and materials used to the technique implemented! These smaller characteristics is what makes a Picasso a Picasso as opposed to a "Not-so". So why is it that we choose not to include our "brush-strokes"  which details failed attempts, detours, and obstacles to our method to life's madness as we recount of lives.

 So where is the struggle in that?! Plain and simple: give yourself credit where credit is due. Be analytical of the pros and cons, count your positives and your negatives- this includes failed attempts as all efforts matter and help shape the next decision. So I challenge you, such that the next time you reflect you use wide brush strokes to evaluate forward movement instead of a broad overview of how you feel the end goal is no-where in sight. If your results are similar to mine- your art will be a masterpiece: Marvel at your mistakes. Be bold and embrace your blemishes. Smile at your strides towards excellence.  Then tuck away your creation  for another 3 years or whatever time period you decide and do it all again.

Haitus

Haitus: “a break or interruption in the continuity of a work, series, action, etc.”

 

 

Pardon my interruption: the past several weeks have been riddled with curveballs and down right land-minds.  As such, I took a hiatus from many people and things including- my writing, reading, and this blog.  Interestingly enough, I now feel refreshed in these areas with a wealth of varied topics and food for thought to share. 

While on my hiatus I have taken time to smell the roses if you will.  I have made new friends, where I least expected them.  Learned things about myself that I was clueless about.  And enjoyed many others things around me! 

So what’s the big deal right? Doesn’t everyone  have bumps in the road?  Does anyone escape life without obstacles along the way?  So where is the struggle you ask?  The struggle is in enjoying the small pleasantries in life without feeling guilty of like you’ve missed out on something else.  So often do I live with each moment fleeting by instead of enjoying and relishing in each minute of the day.  So often am I thinking about traffic and rush hour before I even see the interstate.  Regularly, I plan my life, which in and of itself is fine but while planning…what have I been missing?

So I challenge others to take a timeout! If you always drink Starbucks coffee try a different flavor or a different place! If you always talk on the phone before bed, read a poem on the floor instead.  If you always listen to music on your ride to work, try rolling down the windows and listening to wind in the trees.  Instead of ordering dessert, make some cupcakes and lick the spoon.  Instead of calling the receptionist at work walk down to their desk and reminder her about a client.  The bottom line- take a break from your regularly scheduled program. 

Know that it is okay to press pause.  Enjoy a few moments to yourself-- often.  Take the time to regain your focus, breath , relax, and get back to your regularly scheduled program.